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Dating with dark skin

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Why do light skin black women prefer dark skin black men?

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We dark skin girls have to really evaluate these men because for so many years dark skin has and is a crime and that conditioning has done damage to all aspects of our lives. Owning your own home and taking good care of it is as important to some women as is owning your own car and taking good care of it. Lighter most of the time is more attractive particularly in the caribbean and mixed raced girls.

That's where I was discriminated in subtle ways about not just my skin colour but also for being South Indian. Women prefer men who can stand up against a bully and not back down; though being reckless and offensive starting fights can have an adverse effect. You can still be manly and show you have feelings.

5 Truths About Colorism That I've Learned As a Black Woman In NYC

It was the middle of spring in 2015. My friend and I were making our way through through a lively day party. As we were looking for a spot on the dance floor, a man who was clearly inebriated and looked to be about 12 years my senior grabbed my arm and insisted on whispering drunken sweet nothings in my ear. A couple of months later, we were dating regularly and I genuinely enjoyed his company. One day we took a trip to the beach for an afternoon of fun in the sun. With the relaxing sound of waves crashing, the warmth of the Florida sun and the refreshing ocean breeze, it had all the makings of a beautiful date. I looked at him as if he had two heads. As a dark-skinned black woman, this was not the first time that my complexion had been referred to in a negative manner by a potential mate. As a teenager and even as a young adult, the guys I knew were not at all shy about sharing their preferences. Hearing male friends or classmates gush over a lighter-skinned girl often left me feeling invisible and downright ignored. We rode home in complete silence, except for when he stopped for gas and asked me if I wanted some ice cream. I curtly told him no. With time and support from family and friends, my confidence increased and I started to see the beauty in my dark skin. As I became an adult, I began to truly relish having a deep complexion and started sharing those feelings with my fellow dark-skinned sisters and brothers. It was a journey of self-reflection and self-love that no one could ever take from me. However, after years of working to build up my self-esteem, this guy came and nearly knocked it all down. I cried because his words took me back to the little girl who was petrified of getting darker on hot, sunny days. I cried because even though I tried my best to be strong and resilient, what he said made me feel inadequate and unpretty. I cried because I was pissed, embarrassed and betrayed by my own emotions. The next day I let him know how asinine and offensive his comments were and he continued to apologize profusely, saying that he had a bad habit of sticking his foot in his mouth. I did manage to learn a few lessons after my disaster date. It reminded me of the importance of teaching children and adults that every shade is beautiful and that no one is better than the other. Lastly, it empowered me to continue living my best life, loving myself and reveling in my precious dark-skinned black girl magic.

It doesn't need qualifiers like a grandmother from Barbados or a Spanish accent to be worthy. But I think more highly of you than to expect that to be your motivation, though. In black America, light skin is desired above all else, and for women, it is the golden ticket to fulfilling your dreams of perhaps dating a rapper or athlete, getting a record deal or snagging an acting role. Meaning, everyone date their own race. Simplicity at its finest. I am not condoning the mindset but have you ever considered it is deeper than ugly vs.

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